Dear Diary.. I have been thinking about why some of the most beautiful women I know are still single. Many of our queens are hurting based on their current relationships or still healing from their past ones. Many of them find it very difficult to find love in their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
It appears that a great majority of men have abandoned chivalry, or they have simply forgotten how to treat a woman right. Though the “picking might be slim” with heterosexual men available for an honest, loving, and respectful relationship, I still believe that the best type of love can be found in our 40s and 50s. After all, our mistakes are behind us, and we know who we are.
When I look back at my failed relationships (prior to getting married to my husband), these relationships failed due to my lack of standard. I did not prioritize my self-love. my standards were not yet established, and I did not really know who I was as a woman. As the years passed and I fell in love with myself first, I started to attract men who loved me the way I deserved to be loved. I became the prize. I was now focused on compatibility as it relates to values, financial and emotional security, spirituality, and personal standards. While I appreciate a great time in bed, it was not a major criterion for me as that is not lasting. Compatability and companionship are at the top of my list.
I still believe that a man should chase a woman and not the other way around. I also believe that a woman’s standard should never be compromised, and it should be communicated to a man from the onset of their relationship and not after the relationship starts. A man can spot his “wife to be” in a room or after the first date. Therefore, it is pointless to try and convince a guy you are dating that you are wife material. If you want to know the key to achieving a successful relationship post 40, have a look at
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