Many persons in their quest to build their networth can sometimes compromise their self-worth. In case you are not sure of what exactly your self-worth is, it is the value you put on yourself. Interestingly enough, your self-worth does not have a dollar value, but it should have a premium value.
Recently, several media outlets reported and aired a video of disgraced mogul, Sean “Diddy” Combs physically abusing then girlfriend Cassie Ventura in a hotel corridor. This footage was alarming, disturbing, and outright disgusting. I can’t say for certain in the case of Cassie that she did not know her self-worth, and that is why she stayed. Sometimes, it is more about having the strength to leave once you discover that your partner is an abuser. Whilst I celebrate the fact Cassie was able to escape her abuser, my heart goes out to many other women in our society who are still living with theirs.
An abuser and the abused have one thing in common, they both feel very little self-worth. Anyone who truly love themselves should not want to cause physical pain to another human being. However, “hurting people hurt people.Similarly, you have to truly undervalue yourself to stay in an abusive relationship.
I have realised over time that one’s bank account, physical beauty, and fame have nothing to do with who they see in the mirror. The development of self and consequently self-worth happens over a period of time and is directly related to lifetime events. Even a man who eventually acquires wealth still remembers how someone made him feel when he did not have a pair of shoes. At times, when he looks in the mirror, he still sees the boy who did not have a pair of shoes.
It is rare that you find a human being who was not raised hearing words of affirmation and greatness, but somehow, he or she was able to mature into a confident , self-loving person. It is very important to understand that money and power don’t make you special. You are either born special, and you grow with that feeling.
Money does not bring out the best in you. The best has to be in you for money to bring it out.
Self- love and narcissism are too different things. A person who loves himself or herself does so freely without the need for constant attention or validation from others. A narcissist requires the full attention and admiration of others to feel good about himself.
While growing up, no one told me that I was special. However, strangely enough, I felt it. I never received words of affirmation. It was more common to criticize. I learned from the errors of my past. Parents do not allow a man or woman to tell your teenager or child that he or she is special or loved before you do. This type of upbringing sews the seeds for abusers. Very few people have the ability to not hear how special they are and still believe that they are. It is a gift from the Divine.
There is nothing like putting a premium on who you are. When you actually know your self-worth, that increases your net worth. It is important to communicate who you are with your actions, not just your words. People will always try to challenge your value, but it is up to you to accept the challenge. Always remember,
“They didn’t make you, so they can’t break you.”
In the final analysis, if you stick to who you are, they will eventually see you, even if they pretend they don’t.
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Basia Powell Aka Legend Agent
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